Showing posts with label metaphors. Show all posts
Showing posts with label metaphors. Show all posts

Sunday, June 8, 2008

I take it back: It's NOT Simply There

I've been mulling over the excerpt I posted the other day from the Boston Globe, in which Judy Foreman wrote:

"Fight, Ted, fight!"

This mantra, chanted over and over to give moral support to Senator Edward M. Kennedy as he faces brain cancer, drives me nuts. The caring behind it is wonderful; the metaphor is not.

Cancer is not a football game. It's more of an involuntary dance with a partner you didn't choose, more judo than battlefield warfare....


It calls to mind Susan Sontag's book-length essay, "Illness as Metaphor," in which she argued that cancer--like tuberculosis in the 19th century--too often serves as a metaphor to explain outward ills of the world and inward failings of the person. To quote from our dear anonymous friends at Wikipedia:

Sontag shows how both diseases have become associated with personal psychological traits. In particular she demonstrates how the metaphors and terms used to describe both syndromes lead to an association between repressed passion and the physical disease itself. She notes the peculiar reversal that "With the modern diseases (once TB, now cancer), the romantic idea that the disease expresses the character is invariably extended to assert that the character causes the disease – because it has not expressed itself. Passion moves inward, striking and blighting the deepest cellular recesses."


The Judy Foreman piece had resonance, probably, because to chant "Fight! Fight! Fight!" at Ted Kennedy and his newfound brain cancer seems so over-simplistic, naive, and ultimately self-serving. And, you know, you get a certain amount of this from the world at large when you become "a cancer family": the naivete, the sentiment that serves the teller more than the receiver, the ill-conceived advice, even the simple blameless not-knowing-what-to-say of it all. I say all this knowing that I could say harsher things, and yet even these may have overstepped, broken the contract that insists on careful civility--on both sides, really; the cancered and the cancer-free. But I digress.

Resonance.

On the other hand, how can something like cancer--so difficult to get your head around when it happens to someone you love, so mysterious in its causes and outcomes--how can it not take on aspects of metaphor? I mean, look at this Mount Rainier climb: the whole thing is a metaphor. Indeed, even as Judy Foreman argues that cancer is not a metaphor, that "it's simply there," she uses metaphor to try to explain cancer's true nature: it's not warfare, it's judo, it's an involuntary dance with a partner you didn't choose.

Metaphor, like some poetry, reveals its truth by misdirection or sleight of hand, and sometimes it reveals a deeper truth in doing so. And as we dance around the elusive truths of cancer we're trying to uncover (or simply describe) something about it that can't be uncovered directly. But yelling "fight! Fight! Fight!"???? More than anything, this metaphor fails because it doesn't do justice to the complexity of cancer. We're all trying understand the nature of cancer, and to know how to respond to it. But it's clearly not a football game, and chanting at it is simply inane.

So is "climbing it," for that matter. And calling this blog "Cureclimb" is, in itself, kind of inane. We are not going to cure cancer by climbing Mount Rainier. But as a personal act (by the father of a leukemia kid), this climb "works" for me, metaphorically speaking. And I am grateful to everyone who has chimed in with words of support, donations, advice, whatever. One climb will not cure cancer. But hopefully we'll get there, eventually, and cancer can stop carrying all this metaphorical baggage around. A disease, or a set of diseases; preventable, treatable, survivable. THEN it will simply be there.

Thursday, May 29, 2008

It's Simply There

In the May 26th Boston Globe, health writer Judy Foreman reacts to the (particularly American?) reaction that some people have to cancer news (excerpt):

HEALTH SENSE
'Fighting' isn't how you deal with cancer

By Judy Foreman | May 26, 2008

Fight, Ted, fight!"

This mantra, chanted over and over to give moral support to Senator Edward M. Kennedy as he faces brain cancer, drives me nuts. The caring behind it is wonderful; the metaphor is not.

Cancer is not a football game. It's more of an involuntary dance with a partner you didn't choose, more judo than battlefield warfare.

It's not that I think that Ted Kennedy should sail quietly off into the sunset with the word "ACCEPTANCE" emblazoned on his shirt. Certainly not yet. I think he should, and no doubt will, muster his considerable intellectual, emotional, spiritual, political, financial, familial, and social power to deal with his cancer on all fronts.

And when the time to die comes, as it clearly will someday for him, just like the rest of us, that too can be faced with grace, not guns. I've seen a dear friend do it. I've seen my mother do it. I've seen my husband do it.

The fighting metaphor is insidious because it subtly and not so subtly implies that if you fight, you can "win." And if you don't fight hard enough, you "lose" and are therefore a "loser." In truth, cancer doesn't care whether you fight or not, whether you win or not. It's simply there, just like all the other horrible, debilitating, scary, painful, life-wrecking chronic diseases that millions of Americans deal with every day.

This fighting thing is so American, isn't it? We think of the world as populated by good guys and bad guys. We believe so naively in our power to triumph over adversity, not just as a moral value but as a life-saver. We think a "good attitude" improves survival, while pessimism begets failure and death. But studies show that, while optimism may feel better than pessimism, it rarely, if ever, affects outcome.

And that's a good thing, not a bad one, because it takes away the guilt of feeling so responsible for everything -- the mistaken belief that we have more control over our fate than we actually do....

Tuesday, February 5, 2008

The Mountain is Out

I woke up today to someone shaking my foot, vigorously. And again.

What? What?

It's my wife, and she's whispering forcefully: "Get up."

It's 6AM. One of my days to stay home with the kids.

I stumble out of the bedroom and she's waiting for me in the hallway, an anxious look on her face. I think: what is it? A death in the family? Has one of the leukemia kids relapsed? Is our son okay? Or is it just something online about the presidential race?

In fact it has snowed overnight, the roads are not really plowed yet, and the car is stuck at the bottom of the hill. She could call AAA for a tow, but she thought I might want to give it a try. We live in Vermont, after all--we're not supposed to call AAA. A half hour later I'm home with the car, and Lauren has given up plans to go work out at the gym.

And at this point you're thinking: What does this have to do with climbing Mount Rainier?

Well, there are a lot of reasons I want to make this climb, but one of them has to do with childhood cancer.

And while our 8-year-old son completed his leukemia treatment (2-1/2 years worth) in June of 2007, even still we live with its threat. Its presence has woven itself into our lives. We wake up with it. It hangs over us like--well, like Mt. Rainier hangs over the Seattle area on those clear days when they say:

The mountain is out.

An early awakening, a look on a spouse's face, a boy with a fever, a phone call from our son's clinic--these little moments are filled with awful possibility.

I don't want to overdramatize, but I hope we (all) can get out from under this mountain some day. Until then, it's waiting to be climbed.